Sunday, January 22, 2017

Using your own emotions for healing


When you experience a spiritual awakening your entire perspective of what once was will change for the most part. You woke up to the world around you and are now able to see through the lies that society placed upon you. You were raised according to the beliefs and values of your parents and caretakers, their opinions became part of yours. However, are they true?

The search for a deeper meaning to life started after I felt lost and alone. I had no idea who I was and only believed what life showed me, the good, the bad and the ugly. I've said it many times, "This world is not my home." This may be true, yet, I am a part of it for as long as I live. Somewhere down the line I forgot how to listen to my own voice by adopting "truths" that didn't resonate with who I truly was as an individual. I learned that there was no such thing as right or wrong, there just is. My significant moments in life had to do with the level of awareness I had at that time and the level of awareness of the people around me. For example: It's hard to convince someone of your truth when they are not able to see it your way. You can fight it by trying to convince someone or you can choose to let it go and move on. It's natural to feel this way when we experience the dualistic nature of the world around us. Which in spiritual terms is also known as the physical realm.

Whatever it is that happened to you in the past was needed to prepare you for a life after awakening. When you awaken the process of letting go of everything that does not serve you any more purpose starts. Relax, it is a normal part of the awakening process and will become easier to practice the longer you travel the spiritual path. But, where do you start?

Let's break it down!

The three marks of existence:
Buddha taught that all beings conditioned by causes are impermanent and suffering, and that not-self characterizes all Dharma (cosmic law and order). Meaning there is no "I" "me" or "mine" in either the conditioned or the unconditioned.

Everything that exists in the universe is subject to three characteristics:
Anicca = Everything is limited to a certain duration and, consequently, liable to disappear.
Dukkha = Everything is unsatisfactory. There is nothing that can be relied upon, there is nothing that can bring true happiness.
Anatta = Everything is deprived of a self. There is no self-inherent entity, nothing that can be controlled.

Every cloud has a silver lining
Anicca is a pali word composed with two combined words: "nicca" and the privative particle "a". "Nicca" implies the idea of permanence, of continuity. Anicca means the absence of continuity, the absence of permanence. It is a universal law that can be applied to all phenomena of the universe including our sensual experiences. Anything perceived by us is inherently subject to decay from the moment it appears and will inevitably disappear. Yet, the phenomena itself (significant moment in our life) may not last forever, it will stay with us as a part of our memory and turn into an emotional blockage when it stays unresolved.

Dukkha means sorrow, pain, suffering. It is a dominant characteristic in the world we live in. Suffering manifests in different forms: Sorrow when experiencing sadness, misery, even sorrow that can be felt when one indulges in pleasure (The object / situation creating pleasure will become repulsive). Dukkha is the pain to be separated from those we love, but also that of having to endure the presence of those whom we do not love. As we go through life we find ourselves in painful situations. When we accept any situations as it is we are able to embrace the present moment, which can be very challenging to do.

Anatta is a Pali word and not a Sanskrit word, and has nothing in common with Anatman.
It can only be taught, explored, revealed and expounded by an omniscient Buddha. That is to say a perfect being. The monk Gotama, the awakened one, whom we call Buddha, has discovered this principle. He discovered something entirely new in the course of evolution of all the spiritual traditions of humanity. Anatta is complete awakening. It is essential to our own spiritual awakening, according to our own skills, to at least succeed in achieving a basic and accessible understanding of what awakening is all about.

What does this spiritual knowledge teach us about our emotions?
This spiritual knowledge gives us a deeper understanding that our life consist of experiences of all kinds and adds on to our overall being. It is needed to eventual become awakened. Our spiritual journey truly begins when we have a spiritual awakening. Our emotions no longer lead us instead they become an opportunity, a sign, to deal with unresolved trauma. Resolving emotional blockages requires more than just awareness and the willingness to let go. It also calls for wisdom, for understanding. For example: When you grow up feeling unloved and you want to release the memory for healing, it is very helpful to fully understand all the people involved. Ask yourself the following questions: Why did my mother do and act the way she did? What was going on in her life? Do the same for your father and/or anyone else involved. Knowing their reasons will increase your understanding and enable you to let go with more ease.
There are many reason why something happened to you, find out as much as you can. This is the first step to solving the problem. The next one is to disassociate yourself from the situation and become an observer. This practice will give you clarity. Objectivity will create an even deeper understanding. Doing the inner work can be confrontational but will be well worth it in the end.

There is no fast cure to self-healing and there are many ways to heal. Do whatever works best and feels right to you. It is a process that will take time. Don't expect miracles by releasing one blockage for healing. Letting go of pain and suffering are like peeling the layers of an onion. When you think you've solved one issue another one arises. Be patient and kind to yourself when you start the process and most of all don't be in a hurry.

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